Women can’t cook no more

I cannot remember the last time I had a well cooked meal unless I cooked it myself. The mojo is gone. The magic is no more. Mothers no longer sit with their baby girls in the kitchen and teach them how to prepare something that would actually make you lick your fingers. Girls would rather sit in the bedroom on their phone all day and chat. I wonder what learning is sought in chatting.

The modern, classy, high-heeled, lipstick and always on the phone girl, who seems to be perfect on the eye lacks something. She cannot cook.

I blame the supermarkets first. My friend got married last month and got a beautiful house with an awesome kitchen. I can set camp in there! Believe me when I say he is the only one who steps in that kitchen to cook. The funny thing about it is that the girl he married is basically a housewife. Doesn’t even make sense. He says that his wife usually buys ready-made food from the supermarket every evening. I told him I would rent the kitchen then since it has no use. Supermarkets nowadays are filled with cooks who prepare every kind of meal. This sets laziness to the wife who is supposed to cook.

I also blame this on the 3-minute market products nowadays. Indomie and pasta that only require boiling. Food is prepared for 3 minutes and I am supposed to believe that it’s good enough? Well, I don’t know but it seems rather fast to me. Even fast food takes time to prepare.

What happened to the girls who never left the kitchen when the mom was cooking? What happened to the girlfriend that would blow you away with her food not her looks? What really happened to the active girl who would go buy groceries and cook something for the family?

Easy. She’s on the phone, in her room, chatting with her ‘friends’ and gossiping about a party that happened 3 weeks ago. She’s probably waiting for evening to come so she can avoid the sun and go to the supermarket and buy supper. She’s probably waiting on her man to cook for her.

Ladies: The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Find that path and use it.

Confessions Of a 30 years old man

First of all, do not mistake me for being 30. I know I look old and stuff but no…I’m still pretty young. I wish I was 30 though it looks so mature. Anyway this is not about me, I have to get to 30 first and examine this. But since I’m writing about it I want to be sure that the person reading this and myself do not go through the same.

My cousin just turned 30 last week. Quite a feat. But he never seemed happy about it for some reason. Forget the smiles and candle blowing it works in the movies only. He says that he wished he was 20 again. Well. I’m 21 and I’m grumpy myself so why would he want to be me? I’m awful. He is supposed to be better.

I decided to ask him why and boy he had thoughts my friend. I thought my thinking was deep but this guy is just….*sigh*……deep.

Isaiah, is my cousin. During the run up to 30, he went from being a college student to being a professional mechanic, from owning stuff that only fit in a car trunk to repairing car trunks, from being single to married and apparently from being free of debt to being submerged in debt.

We’ll Isaiah wished he had told himself the things he is telling himself now when he was 20:

  • He wished he had connected better with many of his classmates. He usually ignored them and knew them by name and face. These guys ended up getting flawless careers and who knows how they would help him now that he is 30.
  • He wished he had saved just a little bit. He would have put away 100 shillings for the 10 years he spent drinking and partying. This in turn would help him cut down on housing costs in the future.
  • He wished he would have taken the overseas educational opportunity that came by in his time. We all know where he would be with that.
  • He wished he had been more entrepreneurial. He wished he would have started his own business and expanded it as time went by. It would have been flourishing by now.
  • He wished he could have used that credit card wisely. The credit card. It always lies that you have ‘plastic money’. Why does everyone think ‘plastic money’ is a lot of money?
  • He wished he had been politically involved. Isaiah’s friends are young politicians and appear on TV at least twice a day. He would have had that.
  • He wished he would have taken mentor advice seriously. He would have been just like them when they were 30.
  • He wished he would have taken at least one or two writing classes. He can barely write an application letter.
  • He wished he had postponed some of his purchases. He bought things that are not even existent at the moment. They became obsolete once he turned 30. Boys know what he’s talking about.
  • He wished he would have started planning for retirement when he first got to work. He’s 30 and was talking about retirement.

PS:/ He whispered that he should have avoided that chick Mercy from across the street, who later became his wife.

Moral: We who are still in our 20’s should embrace his confessions and make our lives better. Let’s not live to tell the ‘I wish’ story to our children. Let’s get to 30 better.

THINK BEFORE YOU LEAP

Think about it. You get the news that she’s pregnant. By ‘she’ I mean your girlfriend. You already know it belongs to you. Afterall, she was yours right? She’s probably wondering if this life inside of her is going to make you wife her in a jiffy and you’re thinking to yourself, does it mean it’s your responsibility to take care of her now? Just because she’s going to have your first child? Probably so.

But there’s a problem, you’re still young and so is she. You give it some thought and tell her that you feel both of you are not ready for this and she flips. She won’t let you finish sentences even. You know that you are both in your early 20’s and you don’t have any money or jobs. You just cannot raise this child. The thought is that you refuse to let your child get born if do not have anything to give them. You say all these things and at the same time, try to make her believe that you did not just knock her up.

‘Weighing your Options’- Trying to find a way out.

Now it’s her turn to talk. She already knows you’re talking about abortion as says she knew that was how you would react to the news. It’s pretty amazing that you loved her now you are running from your responsibility. She hits you with ‘Now I believe all men are the same…’ In her mind she now despises you and thinks you only wanted to tap that and run, which is exactly what you’re doing indirectly.

What do you do in such a situation? It’s a new life inside her. Both of you made it. If she’s a strong girl she’ll tell you she will raise the child by herself. Where does that leave you as a man?

Moral: Think before you act. Be prepared for anything. On the other hand, if you don’t want ‘anything’ to happen, be aware at all times. You know what I mean. You can make it work, before and after.

FIRST WORLD PROBLEMS WE DEAL WITH IN CAMPUS-(Case-Moi University)

Being University students increases our first world problems tenfold, because we’re the people who endure the most insufferable inconveniences. We are “poor” enough to complain about fee increases, yet we can still afford to go out every weekend. We claim to be overloaded with work, then spend half our night browsing Facebook or scrolling through funny slideshows. While we understand that our campus bubble insulates us from any real dilemmas, we still get super annoyed at these common first world problems.

  1. You can’t find the online version of a textbook, so you have to buy a physical copy like some sort of caveman.
  2. You have no idea if you are late for class because your phone died.
  3. You forget to bring a jacket to the classroom and it starts to rain and get cold.
  4. You have to deal with a hangover at an early morning commitment, such as a group meeting. If only you had a rest day between Saturday and Sunday (or the self-control to not drink the night before an early morning).
  5. Your off-campus dining options are limited to locations that have student discounts.
  6. After speeding through seasons of a newly discovered TV Series, and finally catching up, you have wait a full week for new episodes.
  7. On weekends, you wake up too late for breakfast and too early for lunch (and sometimes too late for lunch and too early for supper).
  8. You forgot to pack your headphones/earphones and now you have to walk to class in silence.
  9. You see an acquaintance on campus who is too far for an actual conversation, but too close to ignore. You don’t know whether to give a quick hello or to pretend you don’t see them.
  10. You don’t have enough time to adjourn as much as you’d like to this weekend.
  11. Applying for financial aid gives you a headache. Filling out a few forms for free money is the worst.
  12. You actually have nothing to wear because you waited so long to do laundry.
  13. You still have two pages of an assignment left to write… and you already double-spaced it, increased the character spacing, and switched from Times New Roman to Cambria.
  14. Your laptop dies on you after you ignore the low battery warning (your charger was too far away at the time).
  15. You attend an event solely for the free food, but they run out by the time you arrive.

Why Do Students drop out?

Why do students get fed up with College or University?
Why do students get fed up with College or University?

Moi University has been subject to the case of students dropping out before finishing their degrees. There are several reasons why students drop out of University but 3 main ones stand out:

Money

A common reason students drop out of University is a lack of money. Unless students have financial help from family or are lucky enough to get scholarships or grants, they are often forced to take out loans or work part- to full-time to pay for school. Often times, it’s just not feasible for students to afford the cost of living while completing a University education.

Work/Life Balance

Since Universities usually require a minimum course load, students must often juggle several classes a week on top of jobs, family and other commitments. If a student is not able to rearrange his work schedule to fit with his class schedule, he is usually forced to choose work at the expense of his education. Many students find it difficult to find time to study, work on group projects and research, because they are busy making money to afford basic necessities, or to take care of their families. A student is more likely to drop out — whether for a semester or permanently — if he is not able to strike a healthy balance with work, school, social activities and family.

Job Advancement

In many cases, students who work during University gain promotions to high-paying positions before graduating. If a student is making enough money to live on, it’s common for that student to forgo finishing University. School would require him to work fewer hours or give up the chance at a promotion. This is especially the case with students who take internships in University that turn into jobs. Once a student has a position in his field, he may not return to school to finish his degree.

Students drop out of University for many reasons. The decision usually has a lot to do with money and time. Even students who are able to take out loans eventually have to worry about paying them back. Also, most students are not lucky enough to have flexible jobs that allow for schedule changes every semester. While some students who drop out of University eventually return, the majority of them don’t ever re-enroll to finish their degrees.

Who is the best woman for you in campus?

Moi University men usually face challenges when trying to find at least the right woman before they finish school. Finding the right one is definitely not easy, but it is possible, very possible.

There is really no “standard” litmus test for telling right away that a woman is “a good woman” or one of those “other” ones.

Here are just a few things to look for when you meet or date a girl/woman:

1. She has an open and welcoming smile that goes beyond the surface deep inside her eyes

She gives out a good smile whenever she sees you or is with you
She gives out a good smile whenever she sees you or is with you

The window to her soul. Her eyes and her whole demeanor kind of “lights up” when you walk into the room or towards her.

2. She lets you be you. She does not want to change you – clean you up, re-make you or rename you etc – so she can love you but accepts you just the way you are.

3. She genuinely enjoys your company – isn’t afraid to ask for it or tell you that she enjoys being around you. Being around her feels like being around your best friend because you can truly be just yourself — no feeling like you’re always walking on egg-shells or trying too hard to please (and always coming short). The experience of being around her is “satisfying” in its own.

4. She goes out of her way to do things she thinks will make you happy. She’s the woman who’ll call you just to say “hi” or “I was thinking of you” however busy/tired she is.

5. She is independent and secure within herself. She does not need constant attention and does not put pressure on you to feed her self-esteem, anxiety or worries about the future.

6. She’s there for you when it’s up and when it’s down. She’s happy out in an expensive restaurant just as she’s happy sitting next to you on the couch, doing nothing.

7. She does what she says she will do. She does not play mind games but lets you know where you stand because she cares enough to treat others the way she’d like to be treated.

8. She believes that a relationship should be a 50/50 give-and- take partnership. With her it’s not always “Me, me, me” but “we” and “us”. Not only does she believe in a 50/50 give-and- take partnership, she takes her 50% part of the partnership seriously.

9. She shows respect for you not only in private but more so in public because she cares about how others see you and treat you.

10. She’s not just nice to people she has something to gain from but is kind and treats the doorman, the waitress, the beggar on the street, a child, the elderly etc. with compassion and respect. This is a telling sign of how she’ll treat you once she feels she has you and isn’t trying to impress you anymore.

11. She genuinely wants to be in a relationship with you and not just looking for “any man” to solve all her problems. She talks positively of the opposite sex but also not blind to their shortcomings.

She likes the things you like
She likes the things you like

12. She likes the things you like and makes an effort to do even the things you like and she doesn’t.

13. She’s not embarrassed or too proud to show you how much she loves you. She gives you her love and she also gives you her trust.

14. She’s positive, happy with her life and always upbeat. She does not try to put other girls/women down to look better than she really is.

15. She makes you feel like you really matter even with all your faults and shortcomings– and she’s happy that you were born!

Yes, guys there are still good women out there. You just have to know what to look for. She could be just in front of your nose. She could be the woman in the next to your house who greets you in the morning, or the one that waves at you in school. You just have to know where to look. Good luck guys in finding the right woman for you.

MOI UNIVERSITY OUTSHINES UoE

Moi University on Thursday last week clinched four best award titles, from the recently held Agricultural Show of Kenya, Eldoret, held at the Eldoret Showground.

The four awards, Best University Stand, Best Stand in Development Research Institution, Best Engineering Based Institutions of Higher Learning and Best Stand embraced Information Technology Communication System, were all awarded first place to the university, with a fifth one; Best Institution of Higher Learning in Developing and Advance Technology, awarded at second place, after the University of Eldoret (UoE) managed to clinch its first position.

The ASK Eldoret National Showground
The ASK Eldoret National Showground

“I knew it. We had to take the Information Technology Communication System award this year. There is no way UoE could beat us. No way,” said Mr. Gilbert Lang’at, the studio producer at the university’s radio station MU FM.

“We were expecting a better performance this year, but I guess our own mother campus beat us this time round. They brought good competition though,” said Mr. Mesh of UoE, during the event.

Among the technologies showcased during the show was the virtual aircraft by the School of Aerospace that offered air travel students a training ground before practically flying a plane, the recently launched university television station; Kenya Television Services (KTS), the university’s radio station, MU FM, among other innovations.

“We have about ten to sixteen aircrafts that the university has offered. We couldn’t come here and not give our best. After all, they put lots of effort in bringing us those aircrafts. We had to make them proud too,” said Captain Daniel Maina, a student at the School of Aerospace.

The Agricultural Show, attended by other companies and parastatals such as the Monsanto Seed Company, Kenya Seed Company, Kenya Agricultural Livestock Research Organization, attracted outside participation of local schools and farmers, who came to purchase subsidized seeds and farm products.

Hii show ya this time nimefurahia sana. Enyewe, makampuni wametusaidia sana. Mimi kwanza nimefurahia granular lime ya watu wanaitwa MEA, shamba yangu, najua iko salama sasa, (This time round the Agricultural show had a lot to bring to us as farmers. Companies have showcased seed varieties, new fertilizers and soil conditioners, I’m glad that we have a lot to hope for from the content of this year’s show) ” said Mr. Kipruto, a local farmer.

This year’s theme, dubbed “Enhancing Technology in Agriculture and Industry for food security and national growth,” aimed at awarding innovation geared onto having a food secure future, as well as a well-equipped one, regarding technological capacity.

This is why we drink so much

Most campuses are home to a vibrant drinking scene where students frequently get wasted, train-wrecked, obliterated, hammered, destroyed, and decimated. The terms that university students most commonly use to describe severe alcohol intoxication share a common theme: destruction, and even after repeated embarrassing, physically unpleasant, and even violent drinking episodes, students continue to go out drinking together. Moi University is no exception to this habit as every Friday, most students get drunk in the bars and pubs located at stage.

But why do students drink so much?

University students rely on “drunk support” .Contrary to most accounts of alcohol abuse as being a solitary problem of one person drinking to excess, the college drinking scene is very much a social one where students support one another through nights of drinking games, rituals and rites of passage.

Bars, Clubs and Pubs are close to where students reside.
Bars, Clubs and Pubs are close to where students reside.

We continue to drink heavily, even after experiencing repeated bad experiences, because of the social support that we give to one another and due to the creative ways in which we reframe and recast violent, embarrassing, and regretful drunken behaviors.

Another reason why we drink so much is that the price makes a difference. In many campus environments, drinking is cheaper than any other form of entertainment, which enhances its appeal as a social custom. Therefore, students tend to allocate most of their money to alcohol since it is cheaper than going out for dinners and movies.

Bars everywhere. Moi University has a number of bars close to where students reside. This also encourages massive drinking. Some students consider bars to be within walking distance.

Where there’s a party, there’s bound to be alcohol. Students love throwing parties on weekend nights and the only way to make parties lively is providing lots of alcohol to the invited crew. In these parties, students play drinking games and make sure that all the booze is finished.

Some students consider drinking as the only way to relieve themselves of the stresses of campus, and by stresses I mean assignments, relationships and even curing loneliness. When a student gets to the bar and starts to drink, every single bit of depression fades away, just for the night. Students who feel lonely in school go to the bar meet with other people who have went to the bar because they felt lonely too and share stories just for the night, just to cure that fragment of depression for some time.

These are the reasons why we drink too much and some students argue that there are more reasons known to themselves.

Transitional Challenges that face a “Fresher” in Moi University

University entry all over the world provides students the opportunity to define and advance careers, opportunities. Depending on their home environment and setting, the physical and social environment of the university is new, overwhelming and intimidating to some students. More over majority of students joining public universities have unexplained fears and expectations about university life and education. Furthermore for some students, secondary schools friends have gone different ways which makes the unfamiliar university community as well as schedules add to the first year students anxieties. First year students admitted in Moi University face a number of transitional challenges before finally being able to fit in appropriately.

These transitional changes are categorized as follows:

  • Social Relationships
  • Level of Self-Rule
  • Compatibility with other students in the hostels
  • Feeding habits
  • Adjustment to academic programs
  • Access to support services

 

Social Relationships-

Fewer first years get into relationships but those that do last long
Fewer first years get into relationships but those that do last long

Most first year students, especially males, have a hard time comfortably associating with fellow students, especially if they are males too. Female first year students do not really get this difficulty because females always have a sense of harmonious living, so they become compatible with other females quick. Fewer males get into relationships with females while in first year because of the struggle to find a compatible other.

Level of Self-Rule- Male and female first year students do not settle fast enough in the university life. They always have problems when it comes to stuff like managing finances, being free of parental control and their preparedness to take university life head on. Their levels of responsibility in this state of “freedom” are lacking. Most first years do not see the need of attending classes, simply because they feel ‘tired’. First years normally involve themselves in Binge drinking, which is drinking lots of alcohol carelessly, demonstrating misuse of funds.

Compatibility with other students in the hostels- unless they knows each other from home, first year students have problems getting along with their roommates. Moi University hostels are structured in a way that allows four males to stay in a room together. Recently, females have also been subjected to this due to the accommodation crisis thus the same number also stay in a room. The reason why they do not easily get along is caused by the fact that roommates did not know each other prior to meeting in the rooms on the first day of registration at the university.

Feeding habits- This is another challenge first year students go through because most of them do not know what number of meals to take in a day, affording this food and if the money they have is enough to sustain them for the whole semester. It is obvious that for most of them, this is the first time they are planning their own meals. Feeding habits will change depending on what amount of money the student has or what food is available in campus.

Adjustment to academic program – First year students usually have problems adjusting to the academic program in Moi University. This is because the lectures are not uniformly arranged as the lessons were arranged back in highs school. Timetables are never given during the orientation week so they have to wait for them to be made by the various school departments.

Access to support services- This is one of the most talked about challenge that first year students face after being admitted to Moi University. Fewer students have visited the dean’s office for consultation and fewer have gone to mentoring programs in the University. This is because the services that can prepare a student for University or let students know more about the university are not available. You have to figure stuff out yourself.

It is evident that first year student experience a number of challenges in University, some involve how they relate to other students and some involve how they cope with the academic program. However, when time goes by, they find ways to fit in and get along with other students in the University.

Jim Samson India-Singer/Songwriter

Indiah (Left) with the Ogopa Deejays Artists crew
Indiah (Left) with the Ogopa Deejays Artists crew

Most artists in the modern world find it hard to write meaningful songs by themselves since the number of genuine songwriters has reduced. This is because most artists nowadays go more into rap music, which does not entail meaning writing if you ask me. But there is one guy in Moi University who stands out as long as song-writing is concerned….JIM SAMSON INDIA.

Jim went to Nyabondo High School in Nyanza Province where he realized he had some passion for meaningful music. He was always a legend when it came to languages and loved reading as well. These three attributes made Jim what he is today. The Passion, the Language and the Reading. He learned to fuse all these together and developed skills in writing songs.

Jim went a level higher when he came to campus and started to write songs for bands in Nairobi, where he resides. He has become so popular that artists in Kenya contact him whenever they need a song. all that Jim needs to do is to receive a beat and he will write a song to it, of course going by the artist’s preferences.

When I interviewed Jim on how he does this he said, “ I do not know how I do it. I just love to do it. I guess I was born with it.”

India continues to write songs for artists in Kenya and hopefully his talent will be realized by artists across the world that need good song writers.

Firefox_Screenshot_2015-03-10T08-21-54.088ZSample of a song called “WAKE ME UP”…a love song written by him.